Why black families are failing?
Wow.. is it really true? Is the reason we have so much distruction in our african american lives is because we don’t get hitched?
Well..I can believe it. When foreigners hit me up on instant messenger they are shocked I’m not hitched yet. Even though my parents been married ever since I was born. It makes me wonder why I didn’t follow in their footsteps. Was it the environment?
Hmm.. Well, in the article,
At the low-income end, the disproportionate incarceration, unemployment and early death of black men make them unavailable for marriage. At the upper-income level, it is the fact that black women are far likelier than black men to complete high school, attend college and earn the professional credentials that would render them “eligible” for marriage.
Hmm.. now this may have been my problem. Well, I only had one boyfriend who has a father in their life, and still do NOW. It is a wonder, but then again, he still having problems with his relationships, and when we were together, that was back in high school and early college days. The “M” word wasn’t in the vocabulary yet!
Then you have the fatherless women that have a different view on men all together, then in turn, change the men on how they look at women.. and on and on. It’s like an ongoing virus.
Fatherless boys (as a general rule) become ineligible to be husbands — though no less likely to become fathers — and their children fall into the patterns that render them ineligible to be husbands.
The absence of fathers means, as well, that girls lack both a pattern against which to measure the boys who pursue them and an example of sacrificial love between a man and a woman.
So what do we have to do, start getting hitched and show some responsibility? It seems like a BIG thing when a black couple gets married that were from the hood, and it’s also a shame I haven’t been to any of my peers weddings? Most of my friends never got, or I don’t see, getting married either. But the article holds true. If you’re parents are not married, your aunts and uncles not married, your friend’s parents not married, your neighbors not married… then how would you know HOW TO BE MARRIED?
